I pretty much lived all my life in Pittsburgh. Well, technically in a small suburb outside of Murrysville. My whole childhood, we lived in the same house – it was a wonderful place to grow up. At the end of a cul-de-sac, with a huge yard and plenty of neighborhood kids to play with all the time. That was our house when I graduated high school and went off to college – and since I went to a college close by, I often came home.
My parents got divorced in 2004, after 23 years of marriage. That’s when things started to change. My mom moved out and got her own house about a half-hour away, right outside of the city of Pittsburgh. My dad stayed in our house in the suburbs.
When I moved to California in 2006, my visits back to Pittsburgh still felt like coming “home”. The house in the suburbs was my place of comfort – even though it was different since my mom wasn’t there and we weren’t in it as a family. It was still the place I knew, the town I grew up in. I would split my time between my mom’s new house and my dad’s house (my old house) but always felt more comfortable at the suburbs house because it was “my house”.
Two years ago, my dad got remarried. Little by little, that house became less my house and more “their” house – they remodeled and changed a lot of things. The kids and friends I knew in that town moved away. And last year, my dad and stepmom decided to move and sold the house in the suburbs. They now live in another little suburb outside of Pittsburgh, about 45 minutes from the house I grew up in.
This is the first time I have been back to Pittsburgh in 2 years, and the first time I have been back since they moved to the new house. My childhood home is gone. Last night, after I arrived, they took me to the new place for the first time. They are redoing the kitchen, so a lot of it is under construction. But it’s nice, a pretty area and a good house. However, it’s not my house. It’s not my childhood house, the one with all my memories and my comfort.
I don’t know why I’m all nostalgic over this final ending – the book was really written years ago when my parents got divorced. The suburbs house was totally different – quiet and empty, unlike the full, loud house that I grew up in. But it was still there, and was still ours. Now it’s gone, it’s someone elses. Now, when I come to California, I don’t have a home. I have my mom’s house, which I am always welcome in, and my dad’s house which they also open to me. But those are their houses. I am a visitor, in the guest room – not in my room.
For some reason, although I knew it was coming, this actually hit me last night. As I lay in bed in the guest room, in a rock hard (man, it was hard. I swear, I was sleeping on a boulder) I felt like a stranger. And it made me sad.
I guess I’m grown up now. My mom’s house isn’t my house, my dad’s house isn’t my house. My house is MY house, in California. With my family – my man, my dog, and my cats. And as sad as it makes me that I no longer have my home in PA, it makes me happy to realize that now, I’m a grown up. I have my own home. And its mine, my home for me and my family.
After that happy realization, I slept well
This morning I woke up and had a meeting first thing. It’s tough shifting my work hours… I am used to my meetings being at certain times, and now I need to figure out the time for each one after the three-hour time difference. This might sound simple, but it is actually proving to be quite difficult. During my meeting I ate a Kashi bar:
After that, my stepmom drove me over to my Mom’s house. I will be spending the next few nights at her house. It’s crazy, this whole time-sharing thing. And I have to rely on my parents to drive me around, since I don’t have a car while I’m here. I feel like I’m back in grade school. Funny how you go into an automatic time warp when you go back to your hometown and stay with your parents – no matter how old you are.
When I pulled up to the house, my mom had this sign on the front door:
Isn’t that cute?
Lunch was a monster salad.

- romaine
- cherry tomatoes
- cucumber
- carrots
- olives
- feta cheese
- roast turkey
- edamame
- olive oil and vinegar
Alongside there was a blueberry bran muffin from Trader Joes.

I was really snacky the whole day. The fun thing about going to my mom’s house is that she always has new and exciting foods to eat that I don’t have in my house!
I snacked on some dried pineapple,
Some nuts and twigs (is that what they are called??) from Trader Joes:

I have read about these before on other blogs so I was excited to try them but I have to admit… I wasn’t all that impressed. They were just ok.
For dinner, I prepared a pizza while my mom went out for her tango class. My mom maintains a gluten-free diet, and she had this gluten-free pizza mix from Whole Foods.
So pizza it was! I followed the instructions for the crust to a t. It required vinegar, olive oil, eggs, and a few other things. I had to let it sit and rise for about 40 minutes. When I came back to make the pizza, I thought for sure I had done something wrong. It was waaaay sticky… I couldn’t shape it at all because it stuck to everything. It was nowhere near the consistency of a normal pizza dough.
I did the best I could and flattened it out on the pizza stone using a spatula. It was messy! Then I put on some toppings… tomatoes, green peppers, onions, olives and feta cheese.
Baked 20 minutes, and voila! It turned out perfectly!

I was pretty proud of myself! And I had this pretty, Mom-diet-safe pizza to present to her when she got home!!!
Dessert was Trader Joe’s biscotti – two different flavors.

I had two of each flavor:

And then went back for seconds later on.
My mom has two cats too, one of them kind of looks like Mendy.
My mom Looooooves cats.
I can’t wait for her to come to PA to meet Tessa!